Bless his pointy head...

Bless whose pointy head? My husband's!

Why??? Because I swear sometimes I think that man is going to drive me insane.

I'm still having some problems falling asleep at night. I have tried every thing short of taking medicine. I don't want to take medicine unless I absolutely have too. Which is why I started blogging. To help free some of the clutter out of my mind.

I know my husband has my best interest at heart and I know he loves me, BUT this man's cure for insomnia is to lay in bed till you fall asleep. I swear sometimes he must think I'm a dumb brunette and in need of his guidance. He sometimes thinks he has to tell me what I need to do and when to do it and how. Some days I let him stroke his ego (only because I'm too tired to argue) and then there are those times the hounds are unleashed. This is the same man that years ago I thought was cute as a button (I still think he is handsome), who made me laugh a lot (at a time I really did need to laugh) and at the time helped restore my faith that not all males were jackasses!

At times this man is the most stubborn hard-headed man I know. Throw in the fact that he only hears half of what I say. Selective hearing I think its called. I should have realized he was a stubborn hardheaded man who doesn't listen during our first conversation. Which I kid you not went exactly like this...

David - Hi I'm David. I work PR here. (huge grin)
Me - Hi David. I'm Kathy. (polite smile)
David - So Kathy, you married?
Me - No
David - You engaged?
Me - No
David - Got a boyfriend back home?
Me (a little annoyed at this point) - No
David (still grinning) - Good
Me (more annoyed) - Look David, I'm not interested. I left Mississippi to get away from guys for a while and start a new life. Don't you have some place else you need to be or work to be doing?
David (still grinning) - Yeah ... I will see you when I get back!
Strike 2!! Did he not just hear what I said??

Needless to say about 6 weeks after that first meeting I married him. Here it is nearly 21 years later and we haven't killed each other yet. We have experienced life's highs and lows. Each day brings new things to enjoy or deal with.

Marriages come in all styles. Some seem fairytale perfect. Some have more trials than triumphs. Some seem to fit like an old pair of leather gloves. But if you look closely at the gloves you will see fine cracks in the leather, worn spots, shiny spots and even a few dirty spots. All of this doesn't mean that the gloves aren't good anymore. In fact it just means they have with stood the test of time. They have seen their share of work, happy moments and survived the hard times.

No marriage is perfect. Marriage requires work. Marriage requires dedication. Marriage requires imagination. Marriage requires a sense of humor. Marriage requires LOTS of patience. Marriage requires love and friendship. Marriage also requires this from BOTH partners. When there is only one trying to keep it afloat it is very hard. Its very frustrating. Its very tiring. Sometimes it requires stepping back a bit and taking a look at the whole picture. Sometimes its not as bad as it seems. Sometimes it may take throwing a hissy-fit. Sometimes it may take a rolling pin. (just kidding) But you get the idea.

No our marriage isnt fairytale perfect... but like the old gloves its surviving. So yes bless his pointy head... he still loves me!!